Comments on: 100 Girls in 100 Days Project: FAIL

By: WhiteSockGirl

WhiteSockGirl — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:03:58 +0000

Hi! I left you a little something bitchy on my site!

By: WriteAlunWrite

WriteAlunWrite — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 19:00:38 +0000

I’d like to think so. But you seem to be getting offended at the judgement you receive, i.e. “So you se(e) fit to judge me on 5 or 6 posts?” What do you care? And that will be my direct bit of criticism here. You seem to care too much about what they think. You seem to be searching for validation and acceptance. You’ve come to the wrong shop for that, brother. I would think that anyone who could treat 100 women like shit in just as many days would be past that “Why don’t you like me!?” thing. But, that’s the real trick, isn’t it. Look, dude, it’s your life. Do as you will. But you won’t find any cures on the road you’re traveling. Just sayin.

By: Christine

Christine — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 16:58:35 +0000

Hiya Kallay sweets! I’m home-freakin’ A sick again. This time hubs passed on his little goodie to me…and anyway, perfect time to check out the dude’s site. (me thinks he’s a little smitten w/you, BTW)

By: 100 Girls, 100 Days

100 Girls, 100 Days — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 08:53:39 +0000

I’m more than open to criticism

By: WriteAlunWrite

WriteAlunWrite — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 06:06:53 +0000

When one puts themselves out there for all the world to see, as in writing a blog about personal issues and such, then one should be open to criticizm. Just sayin.

By: 100 Girls, 100 Days

100 Girls, 100 Days — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 19:51:49 +0000

I’d go so far to say that I’d the majority of my readers are women.

By: 100 Girls, 100 Days

100 Girls, 100 Days — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 19:49:34 +0000

So you set fit to judge me on 5 or 6 posts? Which, if you think about it, is a whole heck of a lot less time then spending an evening with someone. I can equate four your relationships into four sentences. Yeah, some girls require a deeper understanding. Second, third, forth, readings, but nine times out of ten a cup of coffee will pretty much tell you if it’s something you want to actively pursue. How many first dates do people go on, and wind up forgetting that person exists unless they really, really think about it?

By: Allyson

Allyson — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 17:21:25 +0000

OK…so I went over and read about 5 or 6 posts…which was easy to do, considering that they were all pretty short. I’m not sure how you can sum up a girl in 200 words or less, as he tends to do, but then I’m not sure you can really know enough about a girl to write a sizable post after just one date. I’m not sure how he thought this project would set him on a path of healing. When I needed healing after a particularly brutal break-up, I actually took a year off from any sort of dating. I think if you wanted to do this project with full disclosure to the girls you “date” up front, that’s one thing…but this is sad and really not even that interesting for reading. It’s vague and superficial and hard to believe that there’s much authenticity to the whole thing. But congrats on tackling a topic that incites fire and passion. If nothing else, he has done the same thing with his blog and you can’t blame a guy for trying to land a book deal.

By: Sarah and the Gentlemen

Sarah and the Gentlemen — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:02:27 +0000

Oh. my. cow. I don’t think I can read that. It certainly sounds like he is self-destructive whether he realizes it or is just delusional. I am sorry for him and the girls that he is “dating”.

So… what else are you reading? :0)

By: foxy

foxy — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 15:51:18 +0000

Well, shit. I’m off to waste my day away reading about this guy’s stupid project. Just from your description though, i already have a bad taste in my mouth. But i can see how it will be hard to pull away.

will be back to discuss soon…

By: Krysten

Krysten — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:59:17 +0000

I’m pretty sure I’m not going to even venture over to look at his blog. He sounds gross and sad. He actually sounds a lot like an old friend of mine only more of a jackass. Which is sad.

I was always the girl who wanted a boy that had respect for himself, a guy that dated girls that he could actually SEE himself with, a laid back guy that got along with everyone, had confidence, was sweet and funny.

Oh wait. I have that guy.

Anyway, no girl is going to respect this guy, from what it sounds like. That’s kind of sad for him.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:23:36 +0000

I agree, this totally sounds like book material…and I have to admit, I would pick it up off the shelf and read it. Just waiting to see if he gets on that bandwagon…

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:15:38 +0000

LOL! I totally did. I really do think his blog is interesting and like I said before too, I would be SHOCKED if he couldn’t get a book deal out of this thing. It would be a great book on modern culture and what’s wrong with the dating scene today. I think it would go absolutely bonkers and he would be a rich man. I’m not sure I would say he’s a loser… I’m definitely not a big fan of what he did though. It was mostly unclassy and disappointing. But you’re right… I never really thought of that… doesn’t he have a day job? Not that I would judge someone who was unemployed. I just went through that myself but seriously… this whole thing is extremely suspicious and strange. And if he *is* unemployed… he won’t be for much longer. This will definitely be a book someday.

By: kiera

kiera — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:08:41 +0000

you are so funny. and you just upped his readership. haha. but im goin over there. i gots to check this out.

listen, i cant barely BARELY commit to p90x AND blogging for 90 days. Actually I havent (last post was far too long ago). He MUST be a loser if he can actually go on dates (ok, sleep around and drink heavily) AND THEN blog about it. Either a loser or has 32 hours in his day. which, if that’s the case then I entirely and completely jealous….

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:07:23 +0000

Hahahahaha!!!! You’re awesome. Enjoy the disaster!

By: WhiteSockGirl

WhiteSockGirl — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:01:06 +0000

Dang, now I want to read this blog! I am so on it now,.. love me some train wrecks.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 06:03:37 +0000

So part of it, for you, is a jealousy thing. Which I get. Because if I was a dude, I think I would be pretty pissed about this whole thing too. BUT… I agree with you that the original intention wasn’t half bad. The result… not awesome.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 06:00:45 +0000

Okay… that part I get too. But when you get to the other side of the fence and say to yourself (and hundreds of readers) God, this fucking sucks! Why am I doing this!? in so many words… wouldn’t you be inclined to then say to yourself, “Hey, self! Maybe we should rethink this whole shindig. Perhaps try another angle?” But he doesn’t. He just forges forward with his Beta male brain thinking that he should try to be more like an Alpha male. And rather than feeling better and better about himself, the self loathing not only follows him into a brand new year but also gets worse. And then he’s a full throttle player when he started out a half decent guy. (with great taste in music) It’s just sad.

By: WriteAlunWrite

WriteAlunWrite — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 06:00:03 +0000

I feel I would fail with a guy’s perspective, because, well, I pretty much agree. It’s shallow, and pretty much a mockery and/or what’s wrong with the current dating scene. But, I shall refrain from coming across as sensitive or whatever, since that would make me gay and/or weak to anyone who supports this sort of thing, and just cracked noggins with their frat brother and said “Dude, let’s do this!!” And then ate pudding or something else that is anticlimactic, but much more realistic.

By: Unfair

Unfair — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:54:57 +0000

I agree. But, I thinkhe was just testing himself. We all pretend to be someone we’re not sometimes. Just to see what it would be like. The other side of the fence ya know. Isn’t that what people go to Vegas for?

By: Nic Lake

Nic Lake — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:54:47 +0000

Well, I’m not like most guys, for one. I don’t see any reason to “date” more than one person at once, or to hop from 1 female to the next. Maybe I’m just mad that this guy has the balls to actually talk to women, whereas for me it’s a struggle. But regardless… While his original intention might have been decent, his end result was predictable and worthless.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:47:26 +0000

I agree. It is. It’s happened to me. I totally get his being sick of the dating world and wanting something more. I just don’t understand how all of that made him feel better about himself or about dating in general.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:45:46 +0000

I would love to hear more of the guy’s perspective here. I totally don’t get this. Maybe I wear my heart on my sleeve. (always) But this is just sad with a capital depressing.

By: Unfair

Unfair — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:45:37 +0000

I don’t think that’s heartbreaking… Of course no one has ever not called me after a first date. lol. jk. It’s dissappointing when you don’t get a call but it’s heartbreaking when you’ve fallen in love with someone and they decide one day that they’re done.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:44:25 +0000

Thanks!

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:43:23 +0000

I just did darlin’. I think it’ll do well as a book, but I think your project was a little misguided. I hope you finally find that peace you set out to find.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:40:09 +0000

He mentions having some really good dates with people and then saying he would call them. And then under his breath… just kidding sucka! No I won’t! Girls hang on the words “I’ll call you…”, it’s a fact. If he didn’t intend on calling… he should have just left that whole mess out of it.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:37:43 +0000

I’m not attacking him for failing. I’m not forgetting he’s human. I just don’t understand the thought process of healing your own heart when you’re hurting others’. There’s a piece of karma missing there. Like I said, I just don’t get it. I don’t expect him to explain it either. It’s his blog. But I am allowed to have an opinion about it.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:31:03 +0000

If that were true… I would be a smidge relieved.

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:27:03 +0000

There’s nothing disgusting about having a date with someone new for 100 days. Also, a lot of his dates were sexual. That’s not even the disgusting part either because those girls were willing and able and more power to them for playing the player or whatever the fuck was going on there. People have one night stands. I get that. Been there… I just don’t understand how he went from wanting this to be a journey of healing his heart and doing something new to achieve that, to getting sloshed every night and trying to randomly hook up with women for a project. All I’m saying is that I think his project got a little too big for his project if that makes any sense to you.

By: Unfair

Unfair — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:26:36 +0000

Where does he break hearts? First dates don’t tend to break my heart…

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:19:27 +0000

I’m not bored. I just don’t understand how breaking other people’s hearts can mend your own. Yes, it’s interesting… like train wrecks are interesting. You’ll even see how I mentioned his stuff SHOULD be published. Because it really IS that interesting.

By: Nic Lake

Nic Lake — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:06:23 +0000

Most guys: “Yeah, you rock, dude!” (yes, I’m stereotyping)
Me: “…. you’re an idiot!”

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 04:47:09 +0000

lol this is funny.

By: Peyton

Peyton — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 04:42:39 +0000

I like the 100 girls in 100 days project! its interesting, dont take your boredom out on this poor guy.

By: melissa

melissa — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 04:32:45 +0000

I’m not sure what is so disgusting about having a date with someone new for 100 days? (Even though some of them weren’t dates or even new…)

It’s not at all like “vegas baby!!!” because not all of his dates were sexual (were any?).. not only that, but I’m not sure what you’re expecting… love at first sight on date #47 and he admits he’s a prick and deletes his blog promptly?

Welcome to NYC.

By: Samuel Graebner

Samuel Graebner — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 04:32:39 +0000

I honestly think that you’ve done this man a disservice here. I think you missed the part where he’s a human being. This isn’t a scripted show where he knows exactly where he’s going and will learn a valuable lesson. Sure, he’s messed up, but I don’t see where that gives you licence to attack him for failing. I don’t understand that.

By: phony

phony — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 04:26:37 +0000

he’s a fake…he makes up & blogs fictional dates…not all of his posts are fake, but he’s admitted to a mutual friend that plenty of them are

By: 100 Girls, 100 Days

100 Girls, 100 Days — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 04:22:16 +0000

so tell me what you REALLY think

By: Caroline

Caroline — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 04:06:25 +0000

It’s like a modern Catcher in the Rye, only more disaffected. But it highlights the social anxieties and cynicism that seem to have paralyzed our generation. This guy’s just a drop in the bucket.

By: Kelly @ Dare to be Domestic

Kelly @ Dare to be Domestic — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 03:11:34 +0000

P.S. I forgot to mention how much I loved Empire Records and the Soundtrack. Second only to Singles my all time favorite romance movie – EVER and a killer soundtrack (sorry I’m a grunge-o-holic).

By: Kelly @ Dare to be Domestic

Kelly @ Dare to be Domestic — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 03:09:52 +0000

my brain hurts just thinking about it.. 100 different girls in 100 days. You can’t even get to know someone after one date – half the time it’s not a train wreck until the 4th date. Sort of unfair to these girls. At least How to Lose a Guy in 10 days was 10 days.

I hate to believe I’m a hopeless romantic but under this cynical exterior I really am and this project while mildly brilliant and great writing material – makes me sick. The feminist woman inside me is annoyed and seriously grossed out by it.

Oddly if the shoe was on the other food – Would I feel a chick doing this was awesome and empowered for dating 100 guys in 100 days… hard to say but I’m shallow enough to admit, I’d kind of like that better. Sexist, yes but at the same time it’s like following Samantha and Carrie all over NYC. I guess his is more like Swingers all over Vegas baby! ???

Either way not my cup of tea and I’m thankful I didn’t run into him ever in my life!

By: kallaydoscope

kallaydoscope — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 23:04:30 +0000

True… she did say that and I still love her. But this guy? Uh uh. No way. This blog reads like a very long drawn out suicide note.

By: Caroline

Caroline — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 23:01:38 +0000

In Susan’s defense, she did acknowledge what a train wreck he was. He’s definitely a cautionary tale, though, with all his misery and self-loathing and hiding in a bottle of scotch. The project is supposed to be about testing himself or whatever for 100 days, but all we really see is how sad he is. Dude needs some therapy. Truly.